Head of me
is a mindset, it is living by listening to your heart
With 1-on-1 coaching you learn to make choices that are in line with your personal motivations and your deepest desires. In this hectic world you reconnect with yourself, learn to listen to your heart. Head of me means choosing to live your life the way you want. The sessions are light, energetic and sometimes unpredictable – just like life itself. Enjoy the ride!
WHAT IS HEAD OF ME COACHING
FOR WHO IS HEAD OF ME COACHING
For people who feel they are being lived. People who want to determine their own direction.
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Are you faced with an important choice?
Do you want to have more impact and feel satisfaction in the things you do?
Are you stuck in routines, a busy schedule and a growing to-do list?
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Do you want to know why you always run into the same issues?
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Head of me is for people who feel that they are lived by a busy job, family, social obligations. People who believe things can be done differently, and who could use some help to take charge of their own lives again.​
HOW HEAD OF ME COACHING WORKS
From insight to behavioral change. A journey of discovery for a lighter life.
discover
build
connect
Enjoying the now instead of dwelling on the past or just dreaming of the future. Choosing for yourself, instead of living for others.
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I believe it can be done by accepting your past and consciously choosing your desires. Together we go on a journey of discovery, discover who you are, who you want to be and how you can shape that future yourself.
A PROJECT IN THREE PHASES
discover
build
connect
Carefully formulated for a new way of living. a life in which you listen to your heart.
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In the coaching process you consciously go through 3 phases in order to be able to really integrate the new insights into your life with aftercare. You are looking for your own answers. I guide, you find out who you are and what you want.
COACHING QUESTIONS MAY BE:
To set priorities /
time management
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Clarity about my next step in my life or career
More confidence
Take better care of yourself
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More visibility and profiling
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Be kinder to yourself
Dealing with perfectionism
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A new start in a new environment
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MY APPROACH
A personal, tailor-made approach, for more self-knowledge and the feeling that you are in control of your life again.
The chemistry check
We start with a non-committal introduction; online or face-to-face, we can do this walking if you like. Here we will investigate your coaching question together and check whether there is a good chemistry.
During this phase, you formulate your goal and map out the current situation. Then we start working on the sessions with the phases of discovering – building – connecting
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Insight into your beliefs and obstacles
What did you learn at home? Which - often unconscious - patterns do you recognize? What are your beliefs and where do you want to go? In about 4-8 sessions we will do exercises to gain more insight and to work towards your goals. Afterwards you have more self-knowledge that you can use to make better choices.
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To remain focus on your goal and desires, you can do a checkup every quarter to keep choosing for yourself and your goals.
In your own flow
I do not believe in a uniform schedule that is applicable to everyone. Your situation and desires are unique, the duration and approach of the coaching process are in line with your specific situation.
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In the coaching sessions I work with techniques coming from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP, Gregory Bateson), Transactional Analysis (TA, Eric Berne) and Voice Dialogue (Hal and Sidra Stone).
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The most important values ​​for me during coaching are: having fun, building connection, trust and openness.
WHO IS LILLY VAN EMPEL
A positive attitude to life combined with curiosity, humour, and empathy.
I grew up in Munich and have been living in Amsterdam since 2004. After a career in Marketing & Communication for leading companies such as BMW, Siemens and the Van Gogh Museum, it was time for me to take control of myself. I decided to use my own quest to help others listen to the heart. I have a successfully passed a study as happiness manager and am a certified coach.
From Head of marketing to Head of me
I know what it is like to keep all the balls in the air. I was Head of Marketing at the Van Gogh Museum, but I also had 3 children at home and a busy social life. I felt unfulfilled and it became increasingly clear that something had to change. My sincere interest in what drives people deep down was the reason that I decided to retrain as a coach/happiness manager. In this work I can use my best qualities.
I coach in Dutch, German and English. I also provide training for departments “more happiness in work - the power of connection” and I developed a special program for foreigners in the Netherlands “enjoy the ride - the ups and downs of living abroad”.
I wish everyone the awareness of their inner self
offer for private customers
Head of me single session
90 min
€125
One time no bullshit coaching. Are you stuck somewhere? You've talked about it many times with your friends - but you just can't figure it out. If you find the coaching trajectory too much, you can simply book a session. No strings attached. It is a kind of emergency coaching, to be coached once on a specific question. And then you can just move on. This can be done online, during a walk or whatever feels right for you.
For Deutsche im Ausland
3 x 60 min
€330
The ups and downs of living abroad. Bist du neu in den Niederlanden und hast das Gefühl noch nicht richtig angekommen zu sein? Hast du manchmal Zweifel, ob du den richtigen Schritt gemacht hast? Vermisst Du das Gewohnte und Vertraute obwohl Du Dir doch eigentlich deinen Traum im Ausland verwirklichen willst? ​ Ich kenne die Höhen und Tiefen, die ein Umzug mit sich bringt und hab in den letzten 18 Jahren sehr viel erlebt und dadurch auch mein Leben besonders lieben gelernt. Gerne unterstütze ich dich um mehr Stabilität und Zuversicht in dieser spannenden Lebensfase zu erfahren und um deinen eigen Platz in der neuen Umgebung zu finden. ​ Vor 18 Jahren hab ich mein Herz sprechen lassen, meinen Job bei BMW gekündigt und bin nach Amsterdam gezogen. Die Sprache war mir ein Rätsel, die Arbeitskultur hat mich verwundert, die ersten Bekanntschaften gingen zäh. An die holländische medizinische Versorgung hab ich mich amper gewöhnen können. Ob holländisches Schulsystem, Schwimmdiplome oder einfach einen Sportverein finden, jeder kleine Schritt fühlt sich oft an wie Neuland. Dazu wollte ich im Job meinen Mann stehen und immer alles perfekt schaffen - ich hätte öfters einen Coach gebrauchen können, der mir hilft, meinen Weg zu finden und mich dabei zu entfalten. ​ Willst du in dieser aufregenden und herausfordernden Periode deinen Weg zu finden , dann stehe ich dir neben der Aufarbeitung deiner Coaching Fragen auch gerne mit praktischen Tipps und Rat und Tat zur Seite.
Introduction Coaching Mindset
3x 60 minutes
€330
In three sessions of one hour we are going on a journey: discover who you are, build who you want to be and connect that to your life and future. Session 1 focuses on the past, 2 on the present and 3 on the future. Impact: Insights to your patterns Make better choices
Making choices from the heart
6 x 60 min
€ 625
In six sessions of one hour, we will go deeper into who you are, what has shaped you, the beliefs you want to get rid off and you will feel more in control of your path. You get closer to your dreams by first feeling more and then doing. Impact: Insights on your patterns Know what your desires are Making choices based on your purpose
Head of me
6 x 60 min
4 x 60 min Check-up
€ 875
In addition to the coaching sessions in which we discovered who you are, we will build up who you want to be and connect this to your future goals. I will support you for 1 more year to ensure that the behavioral change is permanent. Impact: Insights on your patterns Know what your desires are Making choices based on your purpose Behavior change
Workshop for teams
More happiness in your work – the power of connection Do you sometimes feel that everyone is on their own island and you don't really know what everyone is doing? Would you like to have better relationships with your direct colleagues? Collaboration starts with giving each other space, but also knowing what the other needs in order to perform well. This is a training for teams that do not really feel like a team yet. From positive psychology, it is about the connection with your colleagues and manager, about the challenges, the meaning, the positive emotions and the flow that you experience in your work. In this training we will work with the basics, namely how you as a team can get into a flow of optimal cooperation. From the organizational objectives we look at the dot on the horizon: what is the mission, vision and ambition of the team. What are the unwritten rules? Is there enough room for autonomy? What about the individual values ​​of the team members? Insight into each other's qualities and roles leads to better cooperation. This training promotes understanding and mutual connection, highlights the feedback culture and ensures that everyone feels part of the group. We will start with a number of practical exercises. We translate the insights from the exercises into a new way of working within the team: What are the personal values ​​and how do they relate to other team members and those of the company? What are the roles of the different members? What patterns do you recognize in the behavior? What do you appreciate about your colleague's behavior? Where do you see pitfalls? The strength of this training lies in the openness and softness, which makes people feel safe to speak out and give each other space. Understanding each other is an important pillar for connection. Learn how you can make better use of each other's strengths to become stronger as a team. This training is suitable for teams of 8 to 15 people. It can be done as a short workshop of 2.5 hours or as a day module. Follow-up Training 2 - Owner of your development together as a team Continued Training 3 – Dream Team - The Champions League program
2 hours 30 minutes /1 day
8-15 people
upon request
hourely rate € 150
Shall we do a chemistry check?
Please let met know if you have any questions or if you'd like to meet up for a free intake. We can meet either online or while having a walk in Vondelpark. Happy to meet you!
Lilly van Empel
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Tel: 0031 (0) 6 272 48 487
Email: lilly@headofme.com